Ten Ways to Protect Your Marriage
- Discuss and set boundaries and expectations. For instance, you may agree that neither of you will meet individually with a member of the opposite sex over a meal. Talk issues out before something happens to cause conflict.
- Keep confidences. Our girlfriends do not need to know every detail of our marriage conversations. Keeping your husband's conversations confident shows a great deal of respect and honor to him.
- Be sure that you know each others Love Languages. It is crucial that you know how your husband receives love from you!
- Carve out time for just the two of you. If it is difficult to get a sitter, just stay in! Play a game of scrabble or choose a movie together, pop some popcorn, pull a mattress onto the living room floor, grab some pillows and blankets to snuggle under, and enjoy a great evening together!
- Go to bed at the same time each night! This creates an easy way to have conversations, talk about your day, and connect.
- Stay connected every day. You should never have gone through a day without having kissed and hugged your husband several times!
- Find recreation that you both enjoy. It doesn't have to be anything fancy: going to movies, a favorite TV show, walking the dog, etc. Just find things you can enjoy together.
- Keep it fun! You most likely married your best friend, right? Laughter and silliness together is good for the soul and your relationship!
- Encourage his time to find and cultivate friendships. Allow him "space" for down time and friends.
- Pray together. Nothing will bring you closer than spending time with Christ in the center of your relationship.
Having had my first marriage crash and burn and disintegrate into pieces, I have learned the hard way that our marriages cannot survive without the proper time and attention given to keep them alive. Don't just aim to keep your marriage good, strive to make it great!
Greet your husband at the door tonight like he's been gone for a week!